my house is a wreck and my guy wants to come over!?
Ok, so I have 2 kids and my house is a total wreck and very small. I clean, but my house is never going to be "spotless and perfect".
I met this really great guy and on date 2 I went to his home. Very streamlined, and clean. He has kids also, but they do not live with him. I am sure he will understand my "colorful home" and random crayon marks on the walls…. but I am so paranoid I can’t stand it!
He wants to come over now to my house for dinner, and so far I have made several excuses as to why he can’t, but the reality is that I am actually embarrassed about it. I don’t have much room, and my kids and I eat at our bar on bar stools – which is very small too.
I want to have a great romantic dinner for him, but I’m just worried when he sees my place – he’s going to think I am sitting in loser city.
Should I just stop worrying and invite him over? What would anyone suggest? And by the way – this is not the first person I have invited to my home, its just the first one that I really think might go somewhere!!
Maybe with the exception of a SAHM or having a maid, I don’t think anyone that has kids house is "spotless and perfect". If you really like this guy and he likes you a few color marks and toys shouldn’t bother him. Especially if he has children of his own. Second, if you bar is too small why not plan a meal and eat on a blanket in your living room with candles or something.
Clean it, and make him a sandwitch.
Hello!
i really think you just need to clean LOTS! get some paint on the wall, hoover every corner and put some plants indoors to freshen the air!
When he comes over, dim the lights, get some candles and he won’t even notice the mess. i’m sure that even if you don’t do all of this, he will appreciate that you have 2 kids, and are a normal human being, who doesn’t have a house out of a magazine.
hope i helped (don’t stress) x
I understand your worries. I have had this problem too. My house was some, crowded with countless useless objects, cluttered with furniture, no space, marks on the walls everywhere, dust on the piano. Two kids, of course. His was completely spotless, no marks anywhere, always arranged perfectly. Lofty, and lots of space to move around in. Huge house. We have a dog and there is CONSTANTLY hair everywhere. He had had a dog, but a non-shedding one, so I was worried he wouldn’t be able relate to that particular messy aspect.
I simply talked to my boyfriend about my worries and insecurities. I explained to him that I was embarrassed about my house and its state. As I talked to him about it he reassured me that he wasn’t going to the house to inspect it, he was coming to spend time with his wonderful girlfriend.
Your boyfriend loves you for who you are. Your house is just another part of who you are. Do not worry about it. As long as it’s not a pig sty (and from your words, it doesn’t sound like it anyways), I doubt he will mind coming over.
Good luck!
Chrissy