not the best parent?
my fiance and i are having our firdt child together however she already has a son. and at first she seemed like a really good mom, but the more and more i watch the less i think of her, im almost to the point to where i dont want to be with her because i dont want my child being raised the way she is raisin her son. she pays him little attention get very frustrated with him, wheb it involves her, but it wa ok for him to write on the wally, ruin my 6000 couch set ad my 1000 bar stools. to rip the blinds down, and ruin a bunch of other stuff. but when my dog poops or pees in the house she goes balistic, and last bigh her son just peed on the floor like ot was the toilet and that was ok, and he is fully potty trained to pee in the potty. she sayds my dog destroys everyrhing when i see him doing it, she get mad and will go to bed and leave him up with me which is fine but i feel she is not a very good parental figure and not pulling her own weight
well for a long while she acted like a great parent it was almost like a show, i will take suctody if we split because i will prove her an unfit mother and i know i could break her down to the point of giving up custody if it came to it.(last resort) i love this girl however my parenting to her child is limited because i have been advised not to spank or heavily repirmand because it could be used aginst me with her x He could say i beat his child etc. i am a much stricter parent where her son try and run the house hold and she let it happen. everything and everything revolves around him. even our sex life. bevaudse he insist on sleeping with us and now im on the couch because there is no room. im only 20 and had my life handed to me on a gold platter and i decided i wanted to do things my way so i know i made mistekes, having a child is not a mistake it a blessing however i wiche she would open her eyes and see the picture i suggested counceling and she got really mad
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Document the way she is parenting her son, using dates and what is occurring. Get yourself into counseling and let it be known to your councilor that you do not like the way she is raising her son and you do not want yours to be raised that way and find out what is the best approach to dealing with your situation and do this now, before that baby gets here. Remember that you do not have to marry her to be a part of your new baby’s life. Do not allow her to control you by using this baby as a pon. Gather enough evidence, if it comes down to it you could be granted custody of your baby, just make sure there is documentation through the councilor.
No matter what you go to counciling with or without her and learn how to parent. Let her know that you want to learn to be the best daddy there is. There is a difference between being strict, being a good parent, and child abuse. It would be very wrong of you to spank her son, you could be accused of child abuse if you were to do that. Yes, kids do damage at times, they usually try one time to write on the walls, that’s when a good parent teaches them how to clean the walls, and explains that crayons belong on paper. I would assume he was really running wild in order to rip the blinds down, and there should have been some type of disipline done to her son when that happened, even if you made him stand there and hold a screw while you fixed it. I hope he is saving his allowance to help with the repair of a $6,000 couch. It seems to me he is looking for attention and the only way he will get it is to be destructive because then someone will pay attention. So here’s a tip, when ever you see him doing the littlest thing, that even resembles good behavior, tell him and acknowledge every little good thing he does, and just watch him turn his behavior around. A child that young wants attention and if the only way they get it is be being destructive, that is what they will do. If you tell him, what he is doing is nice, he will do more of it. You go talk to a councilor and he will explain this. You will be a great dad Iwish you the best.
well give her a piece of your mind jk just talk to her and if she doesn’t listen then maybe she isn’t right for you (and that is not good behavior for a child at all)
Need to bring her for couselling and find out the root problem to her behaviour. From there tackle the problem step by step with counsellors guidance. She must have some mental stress that she need to throw out to someone.
Tell her what you think. You have to talk about it and make a deal on how to raise the kids.
Then you try to raise her kid the way you think it should be raised.
You two have to get together on the issues.
You better marry her or you won’t even have parental rights to the child.
Boy, did you make a mistake by impregnating a woman you didn’t know any better than that. You need to break off the engagment and consult a lawyer asap about suing for full custody of your baby. You don’t want to be step parent to this kid, either.
Relationships need compromise and good communication, mutual respect.
You need to communicate how you feel in a non threatening manner.
The dog should be kennel trained, this means when you are not watching him he is in the kennel.
All children destroy some of their parents things at some time or other.
No matter how much you watch them they will spill things and color things, part of being a good parent is to accept and deal with this this without overreacting.
You need to look at your part in all this since a family functions together.
Take a parenting class or buy a book on parenting, you wouldn’t drive a car without instructions.
Raising a child and having a good relationship takes skills that you both need to develop.
i’d say deal breaker. raising kids together is a huge if not the most important part of your future. if you cnt see doing that with her, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. meet with a lawyer before the baby is born and see your rights.