My husband makes remarks about women?
My husband and I go out to eat about two or three nights a week at a local restaurant. We like to sit at the bar because there is no waiting for a table and we can chat with other couples there.
The problem is that he always makes remarks about the young bartender’s butts and whistles when they have to climb on a stool to reach a cabinet to get another bottle.
He has taken it a step further by ordering an appetizer that he thinks they will enjoy and then will not take no for an answer until they try some of it. Now they (his favorite girls) tell him what to order and help themselves to most of it.
Talking to him about this has not helped me? Any other advice?
Oh, I like the food so I don’t want to change restaurants. The margaritas are wonderful
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One question: Is the sex better after on those nights? If NOT, go off on him. If so, smile and be a happy wife.
well there ya go, margaritas for you or hot chicks for him….sounds like a match made in heaven.
No need to change restaurants, but changing husbands should be on your menu, he is a boor an oaf and a loser and he has no respect for you at all. Kick him to the curb.
Are there any hot males working there that you can flirt with?
Give him an ultimatum…if he still continues then he doesn’t really care about you or your feelings. At that point, you have two options…suck it up and enjoy the margaritas or kick him to the curb. Literally!
now I ask you, are margaritas really worth risking your marriage for?
It sounds like to me you need to start acting like a hot chick yourself. Start flirting with other men. While he is present. See were that takes you..
WOW what a looser.
Tell one of the bartenders to play along with your game of excessive flirting. Tell hubby you were just playing.
Invite one of them back home for some fun
It’s a problem that your husband is making remarks about other women with you. Yes, men do that, but let’s have some respect. That’s a very blunt way of letting you know he is looking.
At least he’s not hooking up with the hot bartenders in the bathroom. LOL…if he’s getting free drinks, actually pretty much he is.
He’s looking for alot of attention. The fact that you are forced to sit through this little show is sad. He has issues just stop going to that place. I had an ex that did that. Lots of flirting with waitresses. All he wanted was attention from cute girls. It made him feel better about himself. I think you should rent some porn with really hot naked guys and make him watch it with you to make him feel like crap. Revenge is the best medicine.
Donna, I hate to tell you this, but I wouldn’t worry about changing restaurants because no matter where the two of you go, your husband is not going to stop his flirting. There is no way this man has any respect for you or his marriage vows. If he had respect and loved you, he wouldn’t be carrying on like this in front of you. Don’t you think that he probably carries things even further when you aren’t there with him? No intelligent and happily married man would act like this in public. I don’t think it’s just the alcohol he’s consuming that’s causing him to act like this. And you sitting there drinking margaritas while your husband is making an idiotic fool of himself isn’t helping matters.
You could insist that the two of you need marriage counseling to address this matter. That’s what I would do, if I wanted to try my hardest to salvage this farce of a marriage. But if you don’t think your husband’s flirting with other women, especially when you are with him, is going to stop at mere flirting, then you need to seriously think about whether you want to remain married to this disrespectful and callous dud of a man. He is already looking for ways to gain more attention from female bartenders than makes you very uncomfortable. You need to give your husband an ultimatum once and for all plus he needs to stop drinking alcohol, if you truly want counseling to sink into his head.
If your husband isn’t willing to get professional help, then tell him if he flirts the next time you go out to eat, that your marriage is over. I don’t think you will be losing anything valuable by leaving this unfeeling man. It’s only a matter of time before he finds some woman to take him up on his offer. And when he finally does cheat, all it’s going to do is increase the chances of your marriage becoming more bitter when you do find out.
If your husband doesn’t think what he’s doing to you is wrong, then leave him now. He sounds like a real piece of work. And I don’t mean that nicely either. This man is a loser, honey, and the way he’s acting shows that he doesn’t care about your marriage anymore.
If giving your husband an ultimatum about talking things over with a marriage counselor doesn’t stop this kind of foolish behavior soon, then get rid of this idiot before he really does hurt you. Dump him and do it quickly if he doesn’t change his tune and ‘see the light.’ Trust me. You won’t be missing anything valuable and it should help you gain more respect for yourself. You don’t have to sit there and take this kind of disrespectful behavior.
He sounds like a rude dude. If you already talked to him, I don’t see what else you can do. You could invite the waitresses to sit in your lap and feel them up, but I doubt that will teach him a lesson. Face it, hon, you’re screwed.
Sounds like you have a winner there. Not okay, this is inappropriate behavior. What is he doing and saying when you are not around. Give him an ultimatum, if he doesn’t stop then its time to leave. You deserve to be treated with respect and if he doesn’t offer you that then he isn’t the man you should spend your life with. He can’t have his cake and eat it too, he made a vow to you, if he cant honor it he isn’t a real man.
i would’ve done booted his a** out the door a while ago. no man that respects you would do that.
It’s completely insensitive. My ex did this stuff in front of me and it made me mad as h*ll. He is obviously trying to boost his ego by getting their attention. His attention should be on YOU. He can look, we all do, but to blatantly say stuff in front of you, NO WAY! It’s just plain wrong.
Their is no respect in the relationship so you should go ahead and end it now save yourself some pain.
lol if your were really pissed you not go back to that place with him matter how good the margaritas were
I never let a man disrespect me i tell you i have walk the first time and he been wearing the appetizer
Get some self respect women and tell him this is not acceptable,he only treat you the way you let him and these girls think your a idiot
maybe all the margaritas your drinking are making you not think clearly. my husband did this to me, id take the car keys, leave him && make sure the locks were changed before he got home.
its one thing if your out with your boys & you make comments. but im your wife. respect me like i respect you_ or ill find someone who will.
you need to start flirting with guys, ask them to try food from your fork, I would never do this to my wife, that is disrespectful so be disrespectful to him….Have fun and hope you flirt it up next time.
My advice is "don’t go" out with your husband for awhile and see if he improves his poor behavior. He is a fool and very disrespectful. Do you really want to have those wonderful margaritas that bad? If you do, then you deserve to have this done to you. Why complain if you still go to this place knowing that he will act the same way again and again? Seems pretty easy to me. Just don’t go out and let this happen to you. That’s my advice. Take it or leave it. You are allowing this crap to happen by going out with your creep of a husband.
He’s an ass. You don’t want to change restaurants because they have good food? ok
Get a job at that restaurant being a bartender and shake that butt.