I need some emotional and legal help. Do I HAVE A CASE?
I need help!! About 3 months ago I got back in touch with my best friend from high school via reunion.com. After a few weeks of chatting and emailing I went to her favorite bar with her to hang out and catch up on the last 10 years. I HATE BARS and this is the reason why…She introduced me to her friends there. There was this guy there ( a friend of hers) who apparently likes me and asked me on a date, I said "no thank you, I have a boyfriend. He resorted to begging and I told him my boyfriend were serious and in love. He said if " If you and your boyfriend breakup will you go out with me?" I told him I couldn’t even consider that question. He got all huffy and acted like a baby throwing his coat on a chair away from me. A few minutes later he came up behind me put his arm around while his friends took one of those SUPRISE pictures that you’re never ready for you know?? Right after that he grabbed my wrist to dance with him, but I pulled my arm back. I didn’t want him touching me. He grabbed my wrist again and pulled me off the bar stool and onto the ground where I banged my elbow on the floor of the bar. After that I left. I was going to tell my boyfriend but I didn’t want him to get arrested for assaulting the bar guy. So I dropped it. My friend called me the next day to apologize about the bar guy, I said it was okay but I never wanted to see him again. Two weeks later OUT OF NOWHERE my boyfriend broke up with me. We were NOT headed down the path of breaking up. We had a trip planned for Valentines weekend! I talked to a mutual friend my mine and my ex’s and they told me my ex received an email of ME in a picture with a guy in a bar. The email read"hey dude, I think we have the same girlfriend". "Is this your girlfriend"? Along with some vulgarities about me. This is so hard for me. I have NEVER and would never cheat on anybody. My parents marriage ended in divorce because of a cheater, so that is something I wouldn’t do. My ex won’t talk to me now, he’s too hurt. He feels are relationship is fractured now and I didn’t even do anything! I’m a victim too! What I want is my boyfriend back. But what I’m wondering is can I sue the bar guy for character assassination, deformation, emotional distress and/or posting a picture of ME over the Internet for malice intentions, without my knowledge??? Sorry this is so long. Oh, by the way I think the bar guy got my ex’s email address from my high school friend. I sent her a couple of emails my ex sent to me. That’s the only thing I can think of.
I just wanted to add that the guy from the bar has an ex girlfriend who tried to poison him. I wonder if he ruined her life too??
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You have no case.
You want to sue him for deformation? Just how hard did you hit your elbow on that bar?
I feel truly awful for you . . . but you do realize you are mourning a boyfriend that takes a sociopath’s word over yours . . . I’m not sure why you want this guy back . . . I mean he gets some random email and suddenly believes a complete stranger over you . . .
I do not think you have a case that would stand up in court . Simply because it is only suppositional that he sent the e-mail . No one knows for sure and not even for sure where he got it . You know when the picture was taken and how , but you can not prove anything else . It might be that someone who wanted him not you that sent him the e-mail . Watch and see who he is dating now.
Defamation of character is when some one goes around spreading untruths about you, and you suffer consequences because of it. I don’t think that you would get any reward for emotional distress unless you have a doctors evaluation. You would need the e-mail from your ex to prove that it was sent,or your ex to testify to the fact. I would consider the relationship with your friend carefully though. Doesn’t sound like she really cares about you. Give your ex some time, don’t go out with any one or do the bar thing and maybe in a month or so he will at least talk to you again and you can go from there.
First off, make sure your boyfriend is worth getting back, if he takes a cyber strangers word over yours, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship.
Now, court wise, in my opinion, you have a case. Probably not about the elbow since all you have at the most are a few drunk witnesses that are your friends, assassination? Who did he kill? Emotional stress, no, the court doesn’t want you taking your drama to them, besides, it would never get through. Where it’s at is the Internet thing, posting a picture of someone on the interney without their permission is very illegal, and if you can prove he did that, take him to court now!
Make sure your boyfriend hears that you’re taking the guy to court, call his mother and tell her to call him, or another relative or friend, if he won’t talk to you. When he hears that he’ll know how serious it is, and know that you were telling the truth.
If you decide not to take it to court, … well, I’d get even with the guy. Coming up with crafty ways to ruin his life is childs play, I’d do much worse, … involving a taser and bathtub, but don’t get caught!
[if you go with the crafty revenge scheme, you might want to contact the bar guys ex and get her story, getting background info is always the first step, for court or revenge, but I'd just go with the violence. [simpler and quicker]
ps-> paragraphs are your friend.
